Psychology

Reciprocity

We feel we owe something back to whoever gives first, so a free gift, a favour or a useful service makes us want to return it.

1893–2020Updated 26 October 2026

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Reciprocity: where it comes from

Robert Cialdini put reciprocity first among his principles of influence in Influence (1984). In an early experiment, people bought more raffle tickets from a stranger who had first done them a small, unasked favour, buying them a soft drink (Regan, 1971).

In ads it shows up as a gift before the ask: a free sample, a useful service, a kind gesture or simply a few minutes of entertainment that people feel they owe something for.